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Ok, so I'm looking over my friend's journals, and I see much agonizing about love lives or lack thereof. Just about no one is safe, apparently. I can't say that none of it'll ever happen to me, but dang, it sure is hitting a lot of people at once. I only wish I could come up with something to reply with that's at least halfway meaningful. Feels like I may as well go ahead and complain too, but I don't want to. Somehow I don't want to.

Of all the things that I can fix, I can't even begin to repair a broken heart.

Current Music: "The Perfect Country Song" - David Allen Coe

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luvforever.livejournal.com

It seems that broken hearts are not truely repairable. They mend and heal with time, but forever in your heart will that someone stay. I had a teacher years ago who would sit and listen while I complained about the current boyfriend... He told me that even though he was in his 70's that he still thought about what might have been with his high school sweetheart, and the only truth is that you are going to just love certain people who cross your path, some more than others, and when the time is right you will both know it, and that even though the past still exists, know that the future is ahead... Broken hearts will heal, but it's not a bad thing that you cannot fix everyone elses, as long as when it does happen to you, you can heal...

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psipsy.livejournal.com

It's my theory that a broken heart can heal, but before long it'll completely shatter and another regenerates in it's place. The only difference is that the new one is stronger than the one before. The amount of time involved in growing a new one varies with the severity of the break, ranging from well under a minute to decades. The mind and body also learn how to protect it better, as a broken heart greatly decreases functionality. It's possible for someone to function while with a broken heart (or no heart for that matter), but the changes in someone under those conditions are easily noticeable.

If the emotional input from other people is too low, and the output (what you give of yourself) is too high, then the imbalance is enough to do damage. I've lost track of how many I've gone through, so sometime awhile ago I set the input to Internal, meaning that I draw from myeself. It was a shaky system at first, but it's improved a lot over time.

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luvforever.livejournal.com

A strange but possibly logical theory. *smile* Wouldn't it just be nice if we never had a broken heart? See, that's what you need to work on... *giggles*

From:

psipsy.livejournal.com

After thinking about it after a few days, I've come to the conclusion that an un-breakable heart wouldn't be worth much. We wouldn't be able to really grow, change, adapt, learn. Ever notice how people with hearts of stone tend to never change? Whereas someone with a heart of quartz (which is most people, and I specify quartz instead of glass) starts off in life awkward, but they get better at caring for others.

It's important for the support mechanism for a heart to grow. A strong heart is necessary to handle the consistently high output to input emotional signal ratio.

Somewhere on my mental control panel, there is a setting for tuning the input/output balance. If the output is set too low, then we appear emotionally greedy, taking much and giving little in return. An alternative to setting input to "Internal Source" is to tune it so the heart doesn't activate itself on emotional static, such as people doing small things for us, although it's important to return such acts of kindness. It's like how on an old TV, if you tune into a channel that's just barely being picked up, you might or might not see or hear a signal coming through, but on a newer TV if it doesn't pick up a strong enough signal, it doesn't bother with putting anything on the screen.

What's important is that we let the world know of our vast potential to love one another, but that it's untapped potential, that to see it's full power and beauty, all that one needs to do is try...

From:

luvforever.livejournal.com

Whenever you find yourself loving another human being though, you open yourself to hurt, pain, suffering. Maybe you could work on a growing heart, without heartbreak...